As an Awakened woman, I have found a common theme amongst women who are traveling the path of the enlightened. Often times they feel a separateness between themselves and their partner as they embark on this journey. A separateness that allows fear to create a void -- a void of feeling like they’ll be walking this path alone and leaving their loved one behind. It’s interesting… at least in my experience, how quickly women are beginning to Rise but at the same time the men in their lives are staying the same. Not to say that there aren’t men on this same journey, because I know that there are. I know many. However, the clients that I work with often have a battle between wanting their partner to come along for the ride, even though they aren’t quite ready for it. They tend to have this need to force them into this Awakening process. Which creates tremendous resistance within the relationship… because… everyone’s journey is personal and different and unique. With this being said, as a Leader in the Lightworking community, I’ve come up with 5 steps on how to reconnect with your partner during this amazing, but not so linear journey of Awakening.
1. Spiritual Communication
We all know, at least we should, that communication is key in any relationship. However, the way we communicate is extremely important when embarking on this journey. It’s a soul-level communication. An understanding of your needs and your partner’s needs during this time. It’s about being completely transparent about your feelings, desires, and needs … but also allowing your partner to be that as well. It’s deep conversations that need to take place so that your Spirits can understand where each of you are at in the human experience. This type of communication will help you to connect with each other in a way that you weren’t before -- creating an unbreakable bond.
2) Showing Affection -- A little goes a long way
It seems like an easy concept, but it’s often forgotten. It’s the littlest things that can keep the affection thriving in your relationship. Your partner needs to know that even though you are “changing” or as I like to say, reconnecting with your authentic truth, it’s important for them to know that you still deeply care about them. Unless, of course, you don’t…. But that’s a whole other topic. Little things like holding hands, greeting them at the door with a hug and a kiss, a simple touch on the shoulder as you’re walking past them, or maybe even a pat on the butt (if that’s your thing). There are so many things you can do to show your partner you’re still “there”. You’re still attracted to them. You still love them. You still cherish them.
3) Make 1:1 time non-negotiable
Trust me, we get it. It’s hard as a mother, wife, entrepreneur, friend etc… to find the time to spend together. BUT, it’s absolutely necessary to keep the connection. This may sound crazy (or maybe not), but we’ve had to actually schedule time together because if we don’t… well, it just doesn’t happen. Lunch dates, weekly dates, coffee dates (or tea), quickies when he comes home from work, but also scheduled intimate time. Step 1 and 2 are difficult to achieve if we can’t make the time for each other.
4) Show them some grace
Let’s face it, as we progress on our journey’s, our partners may have no idea what we’re talking about. They don’t know our “lingo”, and most of the time they don’t see things the same way we do either. This is not a time to become frustrated. This is a time to show them some grace and compassion for where they are at on their journey. We can take this opportunity to teach and lead by example.
5) Be the Leader
I’ve heard this many times as I’ve talked with my mentors and asked, “How can I bring him with me?” They all say the exact same thing. We can’t force it. We can’t make them believe or practice the way we do things. We just have to Be. We have to lead the way so that when they are ready, the path is there to follow. We need to visualize them with us, instead of visualizing ourselves alone. This does not mean their journey will look exactly like ours. As I said before, each path is unique. However, we will be their Light to follow as they navigate through the darkness. We are the beckon of hope that change is possible. Living an authentic life is possible. Reconnecting with our Spirit is possible. Reconnecting with each other is possible.